The pain relieving expert announces his truth (max. 3000 words) about a situation with a client.
Short description of a fictitious situation. A client has a problem and asks me for advice. An appointment for surgery in about 6 months to correct the problem has already been made. Understandable so far? The basic question is, does it still make sense if a surgery is already planned?
Counter question: Why shouldn’t it make sense? I have given the client my assessment of things like the basic attitude, and corresponding solutions, supplements currently used, diet, goals and personal wishes for the future. The client does not get in touch afterwards.
In return, I get in touch a few weeks later to ask whether a few pieces of advice have been implemented, supplements added and how he has been doing – and of course to ask why I haven’t heard from him again. The answer: I was too harsh. That’s why he didn’t call me again. – “Ok. I see.”
What was done within the month to solve the problem. The one with the surgery. Little to nothing. With a tendency towards nothing. Did I mention that a major surgery is planned? I did. True. What’s my own truth?
Was I too blunt in my conversation? I was direct,yes. But harsh? Let’s say, for the moment, that I was too harsh in what I said. What does that have to do with the obvious situation? The client has a massive problem that he is not able to solve on his own. Hence the search for outside help.
The basic question: Is it realistic that I can help here? In 6 months? Not with everything, but with many things. Yep.
The following theory: Could it be that what I said to the client about the individual solutions and possibilities only allows one conclusion: “He must fundamentally change something in order to still have a chance here and to avoid the surgery.” Not the others – he alone has to change something. Only him. If not… well, the result is known. That is called personal responsibility.
Could it be that “the excuse” – “I’m too harsh.” – I mean it directly, not harshly. 
was just a phrase to avoid any consequences? Is it more comfortable to do nothing at all and to sell this truth to oneself – as the only possible “truth”?
Is it more convenient to recognise that the situation that is now approaching you with giant steps has very probably been nurtured and promoted by your own repeated behaviour? And does it make sense, when the final decision will be made in less than half a year, to waste even more time then – to wrap up a coded answer in cotton wool?
What is the quickest connection between 2 points – a straight line, right ? 
Is it allowed to talk to an adult person like talking to an adult person – if it speeds up the resolution of the issue? In my world, yes.
Questions? Have I challenged you?
Let me know. Many sucess on your way.
Stay strong.
Matti
