The pain relieving expert explains his approach to clients. Why I do things the way I do them. And say things the way I say them. And why sometimes it’s more effective to give a kick up the backside and sometimes it’s better to tell the client straight out – “There’s no point in continuing treatment.”
It becomes authentic, it becomes honest – put your collar up and get in the rain. 
Sometimes you meet clients who present a hurdle. You try to convey many things to the other person, but nothing seems to work. Let’s talk about pain in the body.
The client somehow “always” seems to have an excuse ready. And when you check the exercises shown, you find that they are not done at all or not done correctly. Changes that require a certain amount of time to get used to are not tackled at all or are stopped after a short “attempt”. And then there is the pain, which is still there as before. Attention – here comes a challenge – ready?
“Your pain condition is so unique that the exercises do not work for you. Of all the 1000 clients the expert has already helped, you are the only one for whom it doesn’t work. Almost only positive reviews, from many people. Except for you, nothing works. And somehow you knew that beforehand.
“And no – I’m not making fun of you. I’m just getting to the point. I’m challenging you. Does it make sense to put yourself above your customers and treat them from above? Does it make sense to make fun of your clients when they are the ones who pay my bills with their money? Doesn’t make sense.
If I ask myself what kind of expert I would like to be advised by, I tend to go for someone who gives me the feeling (because ideally he has already had this experience himself) of encountering an already known problem. And not have to experience all the mistakes he has already made himself. I am happy to pay for that. Because I get a shortcut, through the knowledge of an expert. It’s similar with the building of the house. Or when repairing the car. Logical.
A reaction such as: “Of course I can help. At least I think so. In a way. Oh, it’ll be fine.”And a three-figure sum for it – Well, that’s logical. What else would you like? I don’t know how you feel, what your attitude to the subject is – I can only assume. You see it similarly to me, don’t you?
The approach that some therapists / doctors take, to treat only the symptoms and maintain the illusion that that will be enough, does not exist in my world. What could be the reason for that? If I show the person in pain the way to improve, develop and maintain their situation on their own, without any further intervention from the practitioner – what would happen? Make your own thoughts about it.
On the other hand, what if I find that the person does not really follow the advice, exercises and approaches? He shows up for the appointments, pays and still has no progress. An investment of 15 minutes a day, the client is not able to keep.
Can you then say to the client: “I don’t think it makes sense for you to keep attending my appointments. Because obviously my approach to therapy is not the right one for your setting.”Of course, all this only makes sense if my approach, if implemented correctly, would also bring success, right?
What is your opinion on this? Let me know. Thank you. See you next time.
Stay strong.
Matti
